Habit 1: Be Proactive

Principles of Personal Vision

The Social Mirror

Our image of ourselves from what other people say is a distorted, crazy mirror.
  • This causes us to to respond in a particular way to a particular stimulus

Between Stimulus and Response

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose

"Proactivity" Defined

We are responsible for our own lives
What truly hurts us is our response to what happens to us, not simply the event itself.
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person
Proactive people carry their own weather with them
The central values to life
  • Experiential
  • Creative
  • Attitudinal

Taking the initiative

Holding people to the responsible course is not demeaning; it is affirming

Listening to our Language

Language is a real indicator of proactivity
The language of reactive people absolves them of responsibility

Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence

Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence
notion image

Direct, Indirect, and No Control

Problems we face fall into three areas and are approached differently
  • Direct control —> solve by working on habits
  • Indirect control —> solve by changing our methods of influence
  • No control —> do not let such problems control you

Expanding the Circle of Influence