Principles of Personal Vision
The Social Mirror
Our image of ourselves from what other people say is a distorted, crazy mirror.
- This causes us to to respond in a particular way to a particular stimulus
Between Stimulus and Response
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose
"Proactivity" Defined
We are responsible for our own lives
What truly hurts us is our response to what happens to us, not simply the event itself.
The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person
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Proactive people carry their own weather with them
The central values to life
- Experiential
- Creative
- Attitudinal
Taking the initiative
Holding people to the responsible course is not demeaning; it is affirming
Listening to our Language
Language is a real indicator of proactivity
The language of reactive people absolves them of responsibility
Circle of Concern/Circle of Influence
Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence
Direct, Indirect, and No Control
Problems we face fall into three areas and are approached differently
- Direct control —> solve by working on habits
- Indirect control —> solve by changing our methods of influence
- No control —> do not let such problems control you
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